Integrity in Relationship (Part 2) – February 28, 2021

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Preached by Pastor Kunle Oladebo

Ecclesiastes 4:9 – 12 “It’s better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the work, share the wealth. And if one falls down, the other helps, But if there’s no one to help, tough! 11 Two in a bed warm each other. Alone, you shiver all night. 12  By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped. “ (The Message) 

  1. Introduction 
    • Better to have a partner.  There is no glory in being a Lone Ranger 
    • A rich man in the multitude of the poor is as better as a poor person. 
  2. Integrity in Relationship 
    • Relate in honesty
    • Relate as a friend
      • Partnership – It is all about your success and fulfilling your destiny in the land of the living 
      • Integrity in partnership helps you to sustain the relationship
    • Relate as a family
      • The integrity in any equipment will be compromised if some components in that machine are no longer working as expected – same applies in a family
      • It takes integrity to stand for what is right – be on the side of truth not people
        • Mark 9:38 – 40 “Now John answered Him, saying, “Teacher, we saw someone who does not follow us casting out demons in Your name, and we forbade him because he does not follow us.” 39 But Jesus said, “Do not forbid him, for no one who works a miracle in My name can soon afterward speak evil of Me. 40 For he who is not against us is on our side.” (NKJV)
        • Genesis 25:23 “And the Lord said to her: “Two nations are in your womb, Two peoples shall be separated from your body; One people shall be stronger than the other. And the older shall serve the younger.”” (NKJV) – used information to break the family – Esau & Jacob
      • Complement one another, don’t compete with one another.  Work together with integrity
      • Families build not break
      • David raised a household of terrorists (Absalom, Adonijah, Amnon)
    • Relate with openness and transparency
      • Operate in transparency and openness
      • Transparency provides a platform for accountability
    • Relate with compassion 
      • Lamentations 3:23 “Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed,  Because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness.”
      • Empathy – feel what someone else is feeling.  Compassion – willing to relieve the sorrow of somebody else (it is an action).  Compassion is an emotional response to sympathy that creates a desire to help
      • Learn to forgive – every marriage built on LOVE must have forgiveness 1 Peter 4:8 And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” (NKJV)   Ephesians 4:32 – “32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (NKJV)
        • Love covers a multitude of sin; be ready to forgive
        • Be compassionate in communication; It takes compassion to speak the right word even at the wrong time Ruth 2:13 “Ruth answered, “You are very kind to me, sir. You have made me feel better by speaking gently to me, even though I am not the equal of one of your servants.” (GNT)
        • Compassion by being considerate, flexible, and having a heart of generosity

Integrity in Relationship – February 21, 2021

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Preached by Pastor Kunle Oladebo

1 Samuel 18:1-4; 19:1-3 (NKJV) – Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. Saul took him that day, and would not let him go home to his father’s house anymore. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan took off the robe that was on him and gave it to David, with his armor, even to his sword and his bow and his belt.

Now Saul spoke to Jonathan his son and to all his servants, that they should kill David; but Jonathan, Saul’s son, delighted greatly in David. So Jonathan told David, saying, “My father Saul seeks to kill you. Therefore please be on your guard until morning, and stay in a secret place and hide. And I will go out and stand beside my father in the field where you are,and I will speak with my father about you. Then what I observe, I will tell you.” (NKJV)

  1. Three Types of People – TD Jakes 
    • Confidants
      • Help you fulfill your goals
      • Always for you
      • Jonathan to David
    • Constituents
      • Not for you
      • They are for what you have
      • Ahitophel to David
    • Comrades
      • Not for you
      • Against what you are against (fight common enemies)
      • Joab to David
      • Like scaffolding in a house
    • Point 
  2. Highlights
    • Integrity is integrating heart’s value into daily actions
      • Can others and God count in you
    • Relationship can be horizontal or vertical 
    • Every relationship requires time
      • Time makes us grow – time with God reveals His secrets
      • James 4:8 “Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.”  (NLT)
      • Time is required to grow, heal, mature, sustain what you have built
    • Relationship grows through mutual investment 
      • Conversation 
      • Communication
      • Intentional and deliberate 
      • Ecclesiastes 4:9 “Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor.” (NKJV)
    • Relationship is about everything 
      • When relationship is broken, respect is lost
  3. Integrity in Relationship 
    • Relate in honesty – Proverbs 12:17 – “He who speaks truth declares righteousness, But a false witness, deceit.” (NKJV); Proverbs 24:26 – “He who gives a right answer kisses the lips.” (NKJV); Acts 6:1-3 – “Now in those days, when the number of the disciples was multiplying, there arose a complaint against the Hebrews by the Hellenists, because their widows were neglected in the daily distribution. Then the twelve summoned the multitude of the disciples and said, “It is not desirable that we should leave the word of God and serve tables. Therefore, brethren, seek out from among you seven men of good reputation, full of the Holy Spirit and wisdom, whom we may appoint over this business;” (NKJV)
      • Keep promises  (God does not lie) – Numbers 23:19 “God is not human, that he should lie,  not a human being, that he should change his mind.  Does he speak and then not act?  Does he promise and not fulfill?” (NIV); Ecclesiastes 5:5 “It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.” (NIV)
      • Jonadab contributed to the death of Amnon, his friend
    • Relate as a friend
      • David and Jonathan 
      • Build friends for yourself and not enemies
      • Proverbs 18:24 “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (NKJV)
      • A good friend will be there for you at all times – Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.” (NKJV)  (Ushah) 
      • Friends correct one another- Proverbs 27:5,6 “Better to correct someone openly than to let him think you don’t care for him at all. Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder—watch out!”  (Good News)
      • Friends mean well even when they hurt you 
      • Friends stand  with you, stand for you and provide unwavering support

Building Integrity – February 14, 2021

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Preached by Pastor Kunle Oladebo

Proverbs 10:7 – 9 “The name of the righteous is used in blessings,[a] but the name of the wicked will rot. The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin.Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.” (NIV) 

  1. Introduction 
    • The name of the righteous is used in blessing:  name is your credibility;  it is tied to your integrity 
    • Proverbs 22:1 – “A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches. “
    • Honesty, dependability and pure motives must all align 
    • If you are a man of integrity, you have nothing to hide
    • Secret indulgences undermine integrity
    • Integrity is a virtue not a skill nor a gift; You have to build it
    • Reputation is what men think you are.  Integrity tells the real ‘who’ you are. – PKO
  2. How to Build Integrity 
    • Tell the truth even if it hurts; Tell the truth at ALL times 
      • Don’t exaggerate or embellish 
      • Stand for the truth even if it means you are standing alone
      • Proverbs 12:17 “An honest witness tells the truth but a false witness tells lies.” (NIV)
      • The final cost of truth is cheaper than that of lies (Ask David re:  Bathsheba — he ended up killing Uriah)
      • The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak of it.” – George Orwell
        • Corruption has become gratification
    • Keep a promise rather than breaking it
      • People with good intentions make promises; only people with integrity keep those promises” – PKO
      • Deuteronomy 23:21 “When you make a promise to the Lord your God, don’t be slow to pay everything you promised. The Lord your God will demand that you pay it. You will sin if you don’t pay what you promised. (ERV)
      • Don’t over promise and under deliver. “There is no greater fraud than a promise not kept.”
    • Confront the problem rather than neglecting it
      • There will always be problems – search all things; hold onto that which is the truth
      • You cannot change what you cannot confront – Galatians 2:11 (Paul had to confront Peter)
      • Confront not comfort;  It is for restoration, not destruction
    • Take the right path rather than the quickest one
      • Proverbs 14:12  “There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” (KJV)
      • Stand for what is right rather than going with the majority

Integrity Matters – February 7, 2021

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Preached by Pastor Kunle Oladebo

Proverbs 11:1-3 (NKJV)

  1. Highlights
    • Integrity’s a combination of honest, dependability and pure motive
    • Integrity defines someone who, in public, is what he is in private
      • Integrity is rooted in our private life, reflected in our personal life, reinforced in our professional life, revealed in our public life.” – O.S. Hawkins
    • Integrity is the scale the Beloved are measured 
      • Job – God was boastful of Job;
        • Job 1:8 – “Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered My servant Job, that there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who fears God and shuns evil?” –
        • Job 1:22 –  “In all this Job did not sin nor charge God with wrong.”
      • Daniel – “Then the [other two] commissioners and the satraps began trying to find a reason to bring a complaint against Daniel concerning the [administration of the] kingdom; but they could find no reason for an accusation or evidence of corruption, because he was faithful [a man of high moral character and personal integrity], and no negligence or corruption [of any kind] was found in him.”  Daniel 6:4 (AMP)
      • Belshazzar did not measure up “TEKEL means that you’ve been weighedon the scales, and you don’t measure up.” Daniel 5: 27 (CEB)
      • David:  “ So he shepherded them according to the integrity of his heart,
        And guided them by the skillfulness of his hands.” Psalm 78:72 (AMP)
    • Intellect, Insight and Integrity, the greatest is Integrity 
      • God is not looking for an incredible person.  He is looking for a credible person.
  2. To Be Credible, You Must 
    • Tell the truth even when it hurts
    • Keep a promise rather than breaking it 
    • Confront the problem rather than neglecting it
    • Take the right path rather than the quickest one
    • Stand for what is right rather than going with the majority  
  3. Conclusion
    • It takes integrity to maintain what God gives you
    • Live a life of integrity